If someone had shown you a glimpse of where you are today when you first started your law firm, you’d likely be ecstatic. The growth, the revenue, the number of people you serve, the lifestyle you’ve achieved — these are all things that would have felt like monumental successes years ago.
But now that you’re here, why does it feel like it’s not enough?
The problem often lies in the comparison trap.
You look at where you are and compare it to where you think you should be — or worse, where someone else is.
You see another leader with a bigger firm, more revenue, or a more luxurious lifestyle, and suddenly your achievements feel small.
But here’s the harsh truth: Comparison is the thief of joy.
Even if you reach the pinnacle of success — say, a $1 billion business — you might still feel inadequate because someone else has a $10 billion empire.
The game of comparison never ends, and it only leads to disappointment.
There’s always someone who appears to be doing better in one area, but what you don’t see is the full picture. Maybe they’re financially successful but failing as a parent. Maybe they’ve built a great business but are sacrificing their health to do it. You just don’t know.
Social media only makes this worse.
What people share on these platforms is a constant highlight reel where everyone is on vacation, showing off their nice things, living their best life, while you’re stuck in the grind.
But let’s be real. Those glamorous moments are just a tiny fraction of their reality. The hard work, late nights, and sacrifices aren’t what people post about, but they are the foundation of any success.
Take, for example, the yacht trip I took recently with some of our CrispX members. On social media, it looked like we were living the high life. But what you don’t see from those posts is the decades of hard work that went into making that trip possible. What you don’t see are the countless hours spent in the office, the stress, and the sacrifices.
So here’s the bottom line: Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s a losing game. Focus on your journey, your growth, and your success. Celebrate how far you’ve come instead of lamenting how far you have to go compared to someone else.
If you choose not to play the comparison game, you’ll find that the satisfaction and fulfillment you seek are already within your grasp.
