Reflecting on my experiences is something I do often. I keep a journal where I regularly think about and document what makes me feel good and what tires me out, as well as the people who support me and those who bring me down.
Supporters — advocates — are powerful assets. These are the people who believe in me and help me succeed. There are also anchors: people who hold me back with negativity or doubt. Listening to them is like tying weights to my ankles, dragging me down.
I believe this type of exercise is valuable for every leader.
It’s important to focus on what gives you energy. These are the things you should do more of because they make you feel good and keep you motivated. Try to give the things that drain you to others who might enjoy them more. It’s not about avoiding work; it’s about using your time wisely.
Implementing changes like these in my own business has transformed my life in incredible ways.
Some people might say I’m lucky to primarily spend my time on things I enjoy, but it wasn’t always this way. It took years of hard work to get here, but I believe it’s possible for every leader.
The goal is to build a career that makes you feel fulfilled, not stressed — and the people you keep in your life are vitally important to achieving that goal.
Are you surrounding yourself with advocates or anchors?
If someone gives me an ultimatum like “it’s your business or me,” I know it’s time to reconsider that relationship. No one should force you to give up on your dreams or make you feel trapped.
I’ve learned to spend more time with supporters who lift me up and less with anchors who weigh me down. It’s a delicate balance, navigating relationships and responsibilities — but it’s a necessary one.
As you look back on your own journey, identify what energizes you and who supports your dreams. Surround yourself with positivity and let go of negativity. That’s how we can all find more fulfillment and success in our lives.
